Vanity & Pride

“Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.”

— Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)

Being proud is acceptable as long as it does not go to the point where one is full of oneself. Celebrate achievements and milestones in a person’s life – no harm in this. Just do not be vain.



Happy Teacher’s Day

Teacher’s Day is celebrated on the 16th of May yearly in Malaysia. 

In my opinion, being a teacher in Malaysia today is a challenge. We have an education system that is “fickle” and placed unnecessary burdens on teachers and students. We have a society which majority transfers their the responsibility to educate and nurture their children entirely to the teachers. And I have absolutely no idea why. 

I would prefer to write about the incredible teachers I know. This year I want to talk about a lady whose name is Wan Sahibul. She is a teacher and my friend. We went to Taylors College and has reconnected in the last few years. We live in different cities and the last time I met her was circa 1984. We have stayed connected through Whatsapp. My friends and I called her the “Superwoman”. She teaches the normal subjects in school and so much more. She sings, dances, plays the angklong, teach swimming, field sport, bowling and other things which I cannot remember. I do not know where she gets the energy. I have no doubt that she inspires her students. 

So this Teacher’s Day, I would specifically want to celebrate her. I wish you the best Wan Sahibul…May you continue to inspire your students. May you be blessed with good health, wealth and happiness. May Allah grant you Jannah for doing what you do. 

“The mediocre teacher tells.The good teacher explains.The superior teacher demonstrates.The great teacher inspires.” 

― William Arthur Ward


Picture credit Wan Sahibul FB

Mother’s Day

The first time my daughter realized the existence of Mother’s Day was when she was around 9 years old (I think). Teachers in her school was teaching the students on the celebration and encouraging them to express appreciation towards their mom. My daughter gave me a flower and a handmade card. We never encourage our children to celebrate Mother’s or Father’s Day. It was just not part of what we want them to be burdened with.

But as time comes and goes there were some years they would surprise me with good wishes and hugs. It was nice. This year they surprised me with a bracelet and earrings. At 17 and 20 years old, my kids will both be leaving home. This means a lot for me.

I hope more than anything that they are proud of me. I am thankful that my kids are good kids (they do their best). They are God’s gift to me and I pray I have and will do my best to be responsible for this gift. I hope that when I leave this world, I know I have done my job well.

I love you my children. I hope you are proud of me as I am extremely proud of both of you.